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TIME FACTOR OF MENTORSHIP

                                      THE TIME FACTOR OF MENTORSHIP

                                             Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

 

I went to give my five-year-old son a hug yesterday. When I hugged him I was so overwhelmed with the smell of cologne that I almost couldn’t be next to him.

But this cologne I recognized—it was mine. My son had put it in his hair and all over his body, and a lot of it!

And so I asked, “where did you get the cologne, and why is it in your hair?”

He responded with, “I saw you do it.” My son had watched me in the morning spray the mist in the air, and it looked as though it was directed at my hair. Thinking that I threw the cologne in my hair, he copied me and put it in his hair too.

I took the opportunity to show him how to properly put cologne on.

This is a picture, in a small way, of mentoring. We all learn through watching, and hopefully someone will tell us why they do what they do.

When I speak of mentorship, the cost is very, very high.

PROCESS OF MENTORSHIP

The way I view mentorship is shadowing or following someone while learning and asking questions of them.

Mentorship has a process:

1.  Information—someone tells what and why something is done.

2.  Imitation—this information is imitated, and again with some tweaks and time.

3.  Innovation—Finally with the guidelines already established, the person innovates and creates from their own personality and experience. But they multiply from strength.

 Mentoring is to show and to tell why something is done. Shadowing can be mentoring for a job skill, learning to cook, becoming a parent, and so on.

 BIG COMMITMENT

Regardless of the job or the task, mentoring is a costly thing, just on the time commitment alone. We have to view mentoring with this view in hand, both when mentoring and being mentored.

To properly mentor is to invest time, energy, and even reenact steps for others to learn from.

If we view mentorship like this then we will see that there are not too many people that we can actually mentor.

This also means that others will need to rise up and mentor as well. I place a high value upon everyone mentoring and everyone being mentored, but with this perspective.

A counseling, advice driven relationship is not mentorship; it is seeking advice. Asking for advice is valuable and needed, but that’s not how I would define true mentorship.

EVERYONE SHOULD GIVE AND RECEIVE

The reason I believe that everyone should mentor and everyone should be mentored is for two reasons:

1.  Without understanding how to learn and receive, you cannot properly lead.

2.  One of the greatest ways to learn is to give, and this also removes the mindset that “it’s all about me” (which, in my opinion, is a negative epidemic). We learn best when we give and multiply.

We should be rivers, not ponds. This is also true in the mentorship relationship.

That means it will take great time and costly energy, and therefore we can only really mentor a few. Jesus had 12 close companions, His disciples, but He invested a greater amount of time and energy on only 3 disciples—the three we see on the Mount of Transfiguration. He took extra time to teach, to pray, and to answer questions. This is the truest picture of discipleship: investing in a few.

The time factor in mentorship is that you can really only invest in a few. I do not want to say how many a few really is, but I will lead you to the example of Jesus.

Let’s look for a few to invest in, giving them our best time and energy. That also means that we have to be very selective with our time because it’s a great commitment, and ensure that these are ones who are willing to be mentored in this way.

We need to really evaluate who to invest into, and who to ask to mentor us.

WHAT IS MENTORING? YOU’LL BE SURPRISED!

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                     WHAT IS MENTORING? YOU’LL BE SURPRISED!

                                   Antonio Baldovinos | Christianity

 


When you think of mentoring, what do you think about?

The word itself brings up varying ideas for every individual.

Many people want to be mentored by someone older and with more life experience, and most times mentorship is thought of as a counseling session where both individuals sit over coffee and the mentor listens and then gives advice.

Don’t get me wrong asking someone for advice has great value and merit. But I would not use this as an example of mentoring properly.

In 1984 a famous movie came out called the Karate Kid. Daniel Laruso, a high school student in the movie, keeps getting beat up from some guys that are skilled in karate from the Cobra Kai karate gang.

This Cobra Kai gang continually torments Daniel, savagely beating him. On one occasion, while Daniel is getting whooped on again, an older man (Mr. Miyagi) intervenes and single-handedly defeats the five attackers with ease.

Obviously Daniel wants to be mentored and coached by Mr. Miyagi, and after some pressing and negotiations, Mr. Miyagi agrees to train Daniel.

Why do I rehearse this story?

Daniel’s training starts with menial chores that he believes only makes him Mr. Miyagi’s slave.

He waxes cars, paints fences, and varnishes a deck.

Though these tasks seemed pointless at the time, Daniel soon finds out that through them he learned the basics of fighting. I believe this is the same for us in the mentoring process.

Let me continue to explain what I see as the basis of true mentorship and discipleship.

 

SHADOWING

Habits are established from watching someone and doing them—from the mentor. It’s then that questions of why they do what they do and how they do what they do can really be taught and explained.

This is the truest form of mentorship yet seems to be disconnected from the mentoring and discipleship process.

Every time I see something significant, whether throughout history or in our time, I ask, “what was the process? How long did it take them? Who was their coach or parent?” And so on.

It’s with these questions that I have come to understand that mentorship is defined by something far greater, and more costly than many perceive.  

True mentorship is not free. There is a price on the mentor and a cost to the mentored.

For the mentor it takes time and extra energy. For the mentored it takes laying down the ego, asking questions pertaining to what the mentor does, learning and even serving.


TRUST

Matthew 4:18-20, And Jesus, walking by the Sea of Galilee, saw two brothers, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea; for they were fishermen.Then He said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” They immediately left their nets and followed Him.”

Jesus first invites these brothers to follow Him, and the new disciples begin the first step in mentoring—trust.

Trusting in following while learning. It may not seem like learning at first, but mentorship is not drive thru, nor is it self-serving, both of which our current western culture screams.

WATCH AND LEARN

After trust has been established, the mentored will begin to walk with the mentor, listening to them, watching what they do and doing what they do.

One of the clearest examples I see of this is with the disciples and Jesus. The disciples had watched Jesus walk in power, signs and wonders, and had seen Him continually draw away to prayer. I imagine this spurred them to ask, “Where is your extraordinary life and power come from?” And, I believe they must have connected His prayer life to His power. Then in Luke 11:1-4 the disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray, and Jesus does so. This came from watching His life; in other words, “tell us how you do what you do.”

Jesus taught and showed the ways of the Kingdom of God—He is the truest mentor. With this type of shadowing, mentoring can really be done; new habits can be created, information and demonstration can be fully ingrained, and therefore multiplication is inevitable.

One piece of advice I would give to those being mentored is to be careful while learning to do what your mentor does. Sometimes we initially think we can do better; though this may be true, trust the learning process and do not allow pride to get in the way of the learning process.

Mentorship has a unique process whereby one is learning, watching and shadowing, and then doing what the mentor does, with their help. This is how I would summarize the process:

1.     Explanation—tell what you do.

2.     Demonstration—show what you do.

3.     Walk with them—do what you do together.

4.     Coach while they do it—allow them to do alone what you do.

5.     Innovation—allow them the freedom to do in their own way what you have  shown them.

Can we seek out advice and counsel? Absolutely. I would never stop this.

But true mentoring is done best by following and shadowing those who you want to reflect and mirror, while counting the cost.


I hope you enjoyed this! If you have a comment or a question, please email me at info@antoniobaldovinos.org

HOW TO BE TRULY GREAT

                                          HOW TO BE TRULY GREAT
                                        Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

 

God invites everyone to be great in His kingdom. He put within each of us a longing to be great and successful. We cannot repent of this longing, but may have to repent of seeking after it in a wrong way.

There is much confusion, pain, and disillusionment related to what a great and successful life is. We need a biblical definition of success. Our humanistic culture defines success in terms of receiving recognition from people and being in a position of influence with great finances.

Many need to expose the fantasies and vain imaginations about how big their individual impact will be in man’s eyes and how much recognition they will receive.

God invites us to greatness without regard to our outward achievements or the size of our impact. It is based on the development of our heart in love, meekness, and revelation.

           Principles For Biblical Greatness

1.     Focus on being great in God’s sight rather than in the sight of men.

2.     Based on our heart responses, not on natural gifting’s and resources.

3.     Will not be fully seen until eternity.

ASSIGNMENTS

People get discouraged if they have a wrong perspective on what they are supposed to be doing. They are told to pursue greatness in their life and they often misinterpret it in terms of having a large individual impact. This causes despair to those envisioning only a big outward venture.

God gave each person an assignment that will lead to his or her greatness with eternal rewards. This is based on the mental, physical, emotional, and financial capacities that He gave each. We will be rewarded according to what God entrusted to us. We are not accountable for what we do not have. Some have despair over what they do not have and neglect to use what they do have.

If anyone’s work which he has built on it endures, he will receive a reward. (1 Cor. 3:14)

 

The definition of a great and successful life is found in doing God’s will and in hearing Jesus say to us, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matt. 25:21). All can succeed in their God-given assignment.

Greatness is within the reach of all in the grace of God. Jesus is committed to our long-term greatness. He has a tailor made plan for our eternal success; we need to cooperate with it.

A SUCCESSFUL LIFE: KEY AREAS TO FOCUS ON

God is focused on the size of our heart responses whereas we are usually focused on the size of our impact. Our individual impact may not be large numerically, but we can be successful before God by growing deep in love, being faithful, and walking with a servant heart.

 This is the best place to start or to get back to. It truly is the safest place to be and stay. No matter the size of your influence, your influence will always be great in God’s sight as you set your heart to please and honor Him.  

#1 Temptation in Leadership and How to Avoid It

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                     #1 Temptation in Leadership and How to Avoid It

                                  Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

Usually when we start out in anything, we start with great zeal and excitement. Challenges come and then things get real and we are usually faced with a huge temptation. We are tempted to quit.

My question to you is, do you want to be known as an overcomer or a quitter? The Bible is full of exhortations of this nature: “do not faint”; “do not grow weary”; “do not give up.”

The reason for this is simple, when things are hard we want to retreat and give up.

The #1 Temptation of leaders is to quit.

What separates those who succeed from those who do not often boils down to simply not quitting. 

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4)

THE ANSWER: PERSERVERANCE

Perseverance in the face of difficulty is not easy, but it is what is needed to succeed at anything you decide to do.

I have many people come to me and ask questions about things like starting a ministry, planning an event, raising finances and the list goes on.

I have always been eager and willing to share whatever I know. Yet one common thread I see when I share is that there are those who have a romantic idea of seeing their idea or dream happen, but when the reality of the work comes in, they quit.

Some quit before they even start and others quit when things get a little tough.

Those who persevere through the trials, mistakes, and hardships, allowing them to bring growth, will always come out ahead even if their attempt at something failed. They learn that persistence, endurance, and a resolve to see what is in their heart to do happen, are the main ingredients to seeing it come to pass.

Tenacious people do not rely on luck or fate. They have determination. When conditions get difficult they keep working. They know that trying times are not times to quit. And for the thousands that give up, there is always someone like Thomas Edison who said, “I start where the last man left off.”

Are you facing the temptation to quit? Go back to your vision. Re-envision yourself again, remind yourself of the bigger picture, look at “the why” behind “the what” of what you’re doing, and set yourself to be resolved again to move forward on what God has given you to do.

In 1 Samuel 30:6 it says, “But David strengthened himself in the LORD his God.”

Ask God for strength, spend time talking to Him and reading His Word—like David you too can strengthen yourself in the Lord and persevere!

4 CHARACTERISTICS OF EFFECTIVE LEADERS

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                        4 CHARACTERISTICS OF EFFECTIVE LEADERS

                                      Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

Do you want to be an effective leader for the long haul? I know I do.

John Maxwell said, “If what you did yesterday still looks big to you, you have not done much today.”

To be an effective leader you can’t live off the success of yesterday. The danger for those who have already achieved some level of success is that they stop growing and in turn stay where they are.

Here are four characteristics to be effective as we lead others.

#1: TEACHABILITY

To be teachable requires that we lay down our pride and admit we don’t know everything. We can evaluate if we are teachable by how we respond when confronted or brought constructive criticism.

Do we make excuses? Do we not listen because they are young? Do we take the truths in what was said and apply it?

To respond correctly requires humility. Humility not only helps you grow and gains the affection of people, it also attracts the favor of God. To be teachable is an expression of humility and “God opposes the proud, but gives grace (supernatural empowerment) to the humble”(James 4:6).

#2: DILIGENCE

There is blessing that comes to those who are diligent in their work. Hard work and being willing to do whatever it takes is necessary to gain the outcome we all desire.

“A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich” (Prov. 10:4).

#3: VALUES PEOPLE

An effective leader cares about people—they do what they do to change the lives of others for the better. Listening, encouraging, as well as helping others achieve their potential, are all ways we can show value to people. We must love God first and then we will love those around us; we can show value in practical ways.

If we are thinking about our needs, hopes and aspirations more than those around us, we are not going to go very far.

#4: MAKES CONFIDENT DECISIONS

People feel secure when they are working under a decisive leader who makes decisions, and quickly.

If you don’t know what to do —consider all of the variables available, ask advice of a couple key people, and make the best decision you can with confidence. If it was the right decision—you win; if it was the wrong decision, you could make it a win by evaluating what went wrong and learning from it for the next time.

One common trait among the top leaders of all time is they make confident decisions. People are looking to follow someone; if you are a decisive go-getter, then others will likely follow you.

Being an effective leader takes a lifetime of growing, learning, failing and succeeding, but it is within reach of anyone whose sights are set on making a difference and doing what it takes to get there.

12 QUALITIES THAT DEFINE LEADERS

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                                 12 QUALITIES THAT DEFINE LEADERS

                                       Antonio Baldovinos/ Leadership

 

Leaders are not born. They are made.

I was so thankful when I first heard that at a Leadership Conference at 22 years old.

Starting out in ministry and looking at the impact one could make, I saw that you had to be a great leader.

I wanted to be a leader some day. I wanted to learn from the best. I still do.

I set out to learn as much as I could from Generals. I aimed at learning from leaders who led in numerous capacities and with various styles, in the Church, Marketplace and in Government.

Every leader is unique, but there are remarkable similarities in how significant leaders look and act. If you’re a growing leader, you can learn from 12 Qualities that define leaders.

1. Sense of purpose: Leaders are those who are going somewhere and refused to be denied. They have a clear picture of what they want to do now, in ten years, and in forty years. They will not know the specific application, but they will know the general direction.

 2. Take initiative to act: Leaders take action. Too many people are waiting to be “discovered” while sitting idly by. Leaders have taken initiative to serve diligently for a season without being asked. This is what separates real leaders from lazy dreamers. (Prov. 13:4)

3. Take risks: Many wait until something is successful before they commit to it. Many hide their fear and laziness behind many excuses. (Mt. 25:24-26)

4. Faithful in Smallness: Many wait for a platform or top leadership position to open before they serve. Many great leaders started going door to door, taking out the trash or doing whatever it took to get through the doors. God makes a great exchange from our “few things” to “many things.” (Mt. 25:21)

5. Do tasks that need to be done: Potiphar bought Joseph as a slave to serve in his house. Because of God’s favor and Joseph’s good leadership, he was promoted to the top position in Potiphar’s house (Gen. 39:1-6). Later, after being thrown in prison. Joseph began organizing the prison and was eventually promoted and put in charge of all who were in the prison (Gen. 39:21-23). Leaders make themselves indispensable by serving with diligence and a great attitude. (Prov. 18:16)

6. Persevere in difficulty: A leader is a person who does not quit. Many quit in the face of the pressure of smallness, of not being noticed, of the difficulty of the work, of being mistreated, or passed by when others are promoted first. This is what separates leaders from non-leaders. Leaders are dedicated. They will spend decades accomplishing their goal without losing focus. Leadership is not a hundred-yard dash. It is a marathon.

7. As unto God: Many are willing to serve with diligence when their leaders are watching. It is common to see people diligent in leading in an endeavor while they are seeking to be noticed, but becoming passive and lazy once they get the position. Be enthusiastic and go the extra mile in service when no one sees you, instead of just showing up when leaders show up.

8. Humility: Many are willing to serve as a way of drawing attention to themselves. The mark of a good leader is humility and godly character more than skill. They fight the self-promotion mindsets and attitudes.

9. Being Teachable: Be easy to correct rather than defensive. Love correction without regard for how it’s delivered. We must not get offended when corrected even by a person with wrong motivations. (Prov. 12:1)

10. Team player: A leader honors and receives from others on the team who are less gifted. Honor those above you – Immature leaders consistently think they know better than those above them, or are comparing themselves with others.

11. For the good of others: We serve for the success of the people we serve instead of seeing them as a stepping-stone to our future success. Good leaders are focused on helping others succeed. (Prov. 11:27)

12. Take less privilege: Those with greater authority must take less privilege. God appointed apostles to be first in authority (1 Cor. 12:28), but last in privilege (1 Cor. 4:9).

THE SECRET TO FULFILLING YOUR DESTINY

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THE SECRET OF FULLFILLING YOUR DESTINY

Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

 

Benjamin Franklin once said, “One today is worth two tomorrows; what I am to be, I am now becoming.”

We often think that we fall subject to the circumstances that come to us, when most of the time it is actually quite the opposite. While it remains true that some circumstances are out of our control, most of the circumstances we find ourselves in can be attributed to, and are a direct result of, the decisions we make today. Today really does matter.

John Maxwell asserted, “we over exaggerate yesterday, overestimate tomorrow, but we vastly underestimate today!“

Money is power but time is life. Time is living. Money is a very powerful tool; it can make a great impact. But to squander time is to waste life—it’s to squander your destiny.

Many will not like to hear this because they think they have all the time in the world. Squandering minutes and hours doesn’t seem to make that much of an impact today, but it’s really to squander your life. You lose your destiny by squandering hours.

I’ve heard it said that life is like a roll of toilet paper, the closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. When you’re young, many throw away time like you have it to waste (just like a roll of toilet paper), but towards the end everyone wishes they had a little bit more.

GREAT EQUALIZER

Time is the great equalizer for all of us. We all have 24 hours in a day and 7 days within a week, resulting in 168 hours per week. Take out 56 hours for sleep and we are down to 112 hours to achieve all the results we desire. We cannot save time; it can only be spent. There are only two ways to spend our time: we can spend it wisely, or squander it.

LIFE RESOURCES

God has given each person valuable life resources.

  1. Your Time
  2. Your Affection
  3. Your Finances
  4. Your Talents

 

Some are given more than others: more time, more  unique talents, and more opportunity from the start. Regardless of what you’ve been given, every one of these life resources should be explored and considered. You have your time in front of you now and how you use this life resource is one of the most important things to evaluate, consider, and act upon—today.

THE SECRET

To manage your time, you have to develop it like character. You get better at it by practicing it and focusing on it. You develop this little by little with constant exertion. It’s very common to never connect the reality of your destiny with time, but it is the secret to fulfilling your destiny.

An aggressive approach to fulfill your destiny is done by managing your schedule—valuing your time. People talk about their dreams and about their destiny but they don’t connect it with their time. If you don’t develop this, your dreams and destiny will only be a pipe dream instead of a reality. What will you do to focus on today?

4 STAGES TO EVALUATE YOUR LIFE BY

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4 STAGES TO EVALUATE YOUR LIFE BY

Antonio Baldovinos | Leadership

Do you want to leave a mark in life that’s bigger than you?

Success is measured in many ways. Some measure it by wealth, others by a certain level of academic achievement, still others by a large network or some sort of platform. But true success is life long and even goes beyond success itself. Let me explain.

When you are looking at your life and where you are at today, there are four stages in the process of life that we all go through when reaching to fulfill our purpose and maximum potential.

You can use every one of these measurements to evaluate your marriage, finances, spiritual life, family health and every other sphere.

Here are four stages to evaluate your life by…

#1: SURVIVAL

We all start in survival mode, especially when starting a new venture or journey. We are taking risks, putting out fires, and working to keep our life afloat and moving forward. This stage is a must as it tests us, forms our character, and brings forth the problem solving techniques needed for every other stage.

If we don’t figure things out we don’t move on to the next area. We can either blame people or we can realistically look at this and make the appropriate changes.

 

#2: STABILITY

Stability is reached when we get to a place where things are running smoothly. Most of our systems and efforts have consistency to them and many of the kinks have been worked out. This is a place where we sit back and breath having been through the toughest challenges and overcame.

 

#3: SUCCESS

Success is what many aim for. This is considered the point where we have now “reached it”—we have achieved much of our potential and vision for life. Success in anything should be prized and taken great pride in, for success only comes at high price. This is the stage where we now know that things are set and running smoothly with efficiency. Very few reach this stage, and even fewer seek to venture further.

 

#4: SIGNIFICANCE

The fourth and final stage of life achievement is significance. Significance in my opinion should be what we all seek after. This is when you are leaving a mark on history. It’s when you leave a legacy that is greater than you and for something much bigger. This is only reached by those whose dreams were really God’s dreams from the start, and whose gains were for the kingdom of God and not solely for them. Significance is reached by those who have lived a life in the greatest way possible, for the eyes of God.

Our God, who gave us life, is the only one who can measure true success in life; any man who lives only caring what God thinks, lives for what truly matters. At the end of our life we will all stand before the Lord and He will reward us for what was done while on this earth. Live to hear “well done good and faithful servant, come and enter my rest.” Live a life going after true significance.

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