8 PRINCIPLES EVERY SINGLE PERSON SHOULD KNOW BEFORE MARRIAGE
Antonio & Christelle Baldovinos | Marriage & Family
Hindsight is looking back at a situation that has already happened, evaluating if something went well or not. Here are some principles that will help singles not only prepare themselves for marriage, but do so without regret.
PRINCIPLE #1: VALUE YOURSELF
There is a value deficit in both men and women. We don’t value others because we don’t value ourselves.
You are worthy.
PRINCIPLE #2: MAXIMIZE YOUR SINGLENESS
Do not SEEK a mate, but SEEK God. The word single actually means to be whole. So seek God to be made whole and look for another person who is also whole, as you are.
PRINCIPLE #3: DO NOT PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL YOU’RE READY FOR MARRIAGE
Dating for sport is playing with hearts and is dangerous and sinful. The intent and purpose of dating is for marriage. If you want to marry, you are in preparation right now. Every decision you make, both good and bad, will determine how prepared you are.
PRINCIPLE #4: HE INITIATES – SHE RESPONDS
Finding a great life mate is an intentional pursuit.
Men: Pursue purity of heart and life. Become proactive, intentional, and find a woman of godly character.
Women: Pursue purity of heart and life. If you are interested in a man who is pursuing you, let him know where he stands with you.
PRINCIPLE #5: RESURGENCE OF HONOR AND GODLY COUNSEL
In our culture, 18 year-olds are independent. However, the Bible says a man leaves his father and mother to be joined to his spouse. Parents are responsible before God for their children and so parents provide their children with their covering until they go under another one.
God promises that when we honor our parents, “It will go well with you.” (Eph 6:3). Parents probably know you better than anyone. If parental counsel is not an option for you, find a godly couple and ask them to mentor you.
PRINCIPLES #6: DATING REDIFINED- COURTSHIP
Today’s dating culture is just “practicing” separation and divorce. You start to not “like” someone anymore and so you separate, while most likely you have already given your heart away to that person.
“Do not to awaken love until the time is right.” (Song of Songs 8:4)
PRINCIPLE #7: HAVE REASONABLE EXPECTATIONS
Even as you are not perfect, neither will you find someone who is perfect. You attract what you are. Be the type of person you want to attract, and you will!
PRINCIPLE #8: ONLY INVEST IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO ENTIRELY
Invest your time on that person that you find attractive physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and in ministry gifts.
To learn more on this subject, you can purchase the teaching CD by Antonio and Christelle called “Kingdom Relationships” where you will hear in-depth teaching on “8 Principles of How to date God’s Way.”